What Can I Do If a Loved One Stops Seeing a Counselor?

What Can I Do If a Loved One Stops Seeing a Counselor?There are many reasons for seeing a counselor. Whatever the reason, when people stop going to appointments before their counselor releases them, family and friends may feel concern. They worry that the problem that prompted the counseling will return, worsen,\ or fail to improve.

How Addiction Starts

An important first step at this point is to determine the underlying cause for avoiding counseling. There are any number of possibilities, which may include the following:

  • People may deny they have a problem at all
  • People may agree they have a problem, but decide they can handle it on their own
  • Issues may have been raised in the counseling sessions that people are not prepared to face
  • There may be a personality or other type of conflict with the counselor

In order to determine what’s going through the mind of someone who stops seeing a counselor, friends and family members need to keep the lines of communication open. This generally means listening without interrupting and communicating with concern rather than anger. Anger is normal, and friends and family need to find ways to deal with it, perhaps by seeing counselors themselves. Freely expressing anger to a loved one who needs counseling, however, can be counterproductive.

Sometimes it can be helpful to offer to help a loved one find a new counselor. Counseling philosophies and methodologies vary, and sometimes a particular counselor just isn’t a good fit for a particular patient. It can also be helpful to accompany your loved one to counseling sessions and to be willing to enter into the treatment process.

What Are Co-Occurring Disorders?

When a loved one stops seeing a counselor, it’s wise to learn about substance abuse and addiction and to keep your eyes open for any signs of trouble. Addiction and mental health conditions often go hand in hand, and are known as co-occurring disorders. People often use drugs or alcohol to deal with anxiety, depression, posttraumatic stress disorder or another mental health condition, often without even fully realizing that is what they are doing. Integrated treatment is needed so that all conditions are assessed and addressed simultaneously.

Integrated Treatment Help

If you’d like to learn more about integrated treatment, we can answer your questions and discuss your options. Our helpline is toll free and available 24 hours a day. Call now and be prepared to help your loved one.