My Husband Refuses to See an Addiction Counselor: What Can I Do?

My Husband Refuses to See an Addiction Counselor: What Can I Do?Addiction is a confusing and frightening disease – not only for the addicts, but for those who love them. The psychological underpinnings of addiction will often prevent people from getting the help they need, but there are several things loved ones – especially spouses – can do to help.

How Addiction Works

Addiction is both a physical and psychological disease. Substances like drugs and alcohol often replace natural chemicals in the brain that help people feel positive. This means that if and when an addict stops taking a drug, his body will react with harsh withdrawal symptoms until his natural chemical balance is restored. Withdrawal is the worst part of physical addiction and the fear of these symptoms will keep many addicts from even trying to get clean. However, many of the best modern rehab facilities offer medically supervised detox which relieves the worst symptoms of physical withdrawal.

But, as difficult as detox is, the real power of addiction is wrapped up in its ability to alter an addict’s psychological makeup. The part of the brain most affected by mind-altering substances is also responsible for many of the most important psychological and emotional functions, including the following:

  • Emotions
  • Memories
  • Impulse control
  • Formation of habits
  • Anxiety control

Many people mistakenly believe that psychological addiction is just about “feelings,” and that anyone with enough determination should be able to just quit. However, the truth is that addiction rewires the brain’s neural pathways to drive behaviors in a much more powerful way than rational thought or will. This means that many addicts will not be able to quit without professional help – no matter how hard they try. They will need intensive psychological and emotional support in order to get and stay clean.

How to Communicate with my Addicted Husband

One of the most difficult things to accomplish when addiction affects a relationship is healthy communication. Counseling can help the spouse of an addict learn how to set and reinforce boundaries. Because the psychological effects of the disease can prevent the addict from hearing things in the way they are intended, it is important for spouses to learn how best to communicate their concerns.

Wives of Addicts Need Help Too

Many spouses don’t realize how drastically their partner’s addiction impacts them. From unhealthy coping mechanisms to behaviors that actually enable the addict to continue in their disease, being married to an addict is difficult indeed. Specialized counseling for the spouses of addicts can help them think and act in a healthy way and can prepare them to confront their partner’s illness in the most productive way possible.

Addiction Help for Your Spouse

Recovery counselors are an excellent resource for spouses of addicts as they can provide much-needed education about the details of this disorder. Call our toll-free, 24 hour helpline any time and let our specially trained addiction counselors answer your questions. We can connect you with the best support for your specific needs. When it comes to inspiring your husband to seek the help that could save your marriage – and his life – you will need professional help. That help is available to you from the moment you pick up the phone.